Have you ever been in a situation you didn’t want to be in, but felt unable to move? Then you might have been ‘stuck’ for a while. But don’t worry, whether in a job, a relationship or something else, it’s uncommon for everything to flow all the time.
I got stuck on multiple occasions and I find it a very unsettling state to be in. Nevertheless, I’ve come to realize we are all bound to experience prolonged periods of ‘stuckness’ in our lives. All tasks are completed through cycles of flow and stagnation. So beware of self help books that claim you can be successful 365 days a year. For me, such ideas only fuel the impossible standards I hold myself to. Standards, which often are the exact reason I get stuck in the first place.
Fortunately though, to be stuck often turns out to be a very fruitful state to be in – eventually. David Whyte, writer of “The Three Marriages” has something interesting to say about this:
There is no possibility of pursuing a work, a relationship or any other goal in life without coming to terms with all the ways it is impossible to do it. Therefore, we will get stuck often and every time we do, we are reminded of two important things: either we are at the beginning or we have forgotten where we want to go.
Whyte is a poet and if he had the chance, I’m sure he’d say these words out loud and repeat himself in order for his message to sink in.
Every time we get stuck we’re reminded all beginnings are difficult. Also, we are reminded to question ourselves whether we are going the right way.
These reminders serve a beautiful purpose: when we find ourselves stuck, we begin paying real attention as to how to move on. And when, thanks to this attention, we start to see the dynamic that’s preventing us from moving on, our situation is bound to change.
Where will your stuckness lead you?
Liked this post? Then also read: Why you get ahead when you stand still.